Are You Caught In A Web?

Do you ever find yourself second guessing your choices? Questioning if you’re doing enough—or worse, if you are enough? If so, you may be caught in a web of lies.

I recently read a devotional called The Lies We Believe, and it made me stop and think. Not because the ideas were new—but because they were familiar. It made me realize how or what I believe about myself can quietly shape how I live my life.

Because what we believe… drives and shapes everything.

It shapes our decisions, our reactions, our relationships—and ultimately, the direction of our lives. And if those beliefs are rooted in lies, then those lies are what we build everything on. It’s a very dangerous cycle.

The author of this great devotional references Carlos Whittaker who writes about this in his book – Kill the Spider: Getting Rid of What’s Really Holding You Back—and although I have not read this book, the concept stuck with me. Because lies are like spiders. Subtle. Quiet. Easy to miss at first. But once they take hold, they begin to spin a web—one that can look almost convincing… even reasonable. Until you realize you’re stuck in it.

For me, those “spiders” have sounded like this:

• Am I a good enough mom?
• Am I a good enough wife?
• Can I really run a business well?
• Am I confident enough to lead?
• Am I even smart enough?
• Am I failing at this blog of mine?

And the tricky part? These don’t always feel like lies. They often come disguised as “logic”… as “caution”… as “just being realistic”, and often similar to the truth.

But they’re not truth.

Because the truth is—God didn’t create me to live small, questioning every step. He called me into these roles—mom, wife, leader—and He doesn’t call us into something just to leave us unequipped for it. He didn’t do this for YOU either!

So why do the lies hit hardest there?

Because those are the very places we’re meant to shine.

The enemy doesn’t need to shout. A quiet whisper of doubt is enough to make us hesitate, shrink back, or settle. Spiders know how to sneak up on their victims. And over time, those small moments begin to shape a life lived in fear instead of freedom.

You become guarded.
You play small.
You stop reaching for what once felt possible.

And slowly, without even realizing it… you start believing the web is where you belong.

But it’s not.

Yes, life will have hard seasons. There will be disappointments, unanswered prayers, and moments where God feels distant. But those moments are not permission to believe the lies—they are the very times we need to be most aware of them.

To be strong. To move forward.

So when you feel that pull—to seek validation, to question your worth, to tie your identity to success or approval—pause.

Pay attention.

Ask yourself: Is this truth… or is this a lie I’ve believed before?

Not every thought deserves to take root and not every web is meant to hold you. You were created for freedom, for purpose, and for an amazing life. The web may feel real—but it is not the truth. And the moment you begin to see the lie for what it is, is the moment you begin to step back into freedom.

So, start today by squishing that spider and knocking down that web. You are way too amazing to be stuck or covered by a web of lies! You are a butterfly – so let your beauty and strength shine for the world to see.