Love In Every Season
Ahhh… Fall. Isn’t it such a beautiful time of year? It’s truly my favourite season. The trees bursting with vibrant colors, the crisp coolness in the mornings, and the golden warmth of the afternoons — it feels just perfect. Did you know that our love goes through seasons as well?
True love will always walk with you through all the seasons of life…. Anonymous…
This summer I read a wonderful devotional titled Love in Every Season by Debra Fileta. In it, she outlines how our relationships move through four seasons — fall, winter, spring, and summer. Unlike nature, these seasons don’t always follow a predictable order. At times, you may linger in one season for months or even years, while at other times you might find yourself cycling through the same season again and again.
After reading this devotional, I thought — what a wonderful idea for a blog series to encourage others. Throughout 2025 and 2026, I’ll be sharing reflections on love during each season, highlighting how it connects to the natural rhythm of that time of year.
We’ve all wondered why at certain points we feel deeply connected to others, yet at other times, distant — almost as if our relationships ebb and flow with the seasons. This devotional shed so much light on that. And the beauty is, it doesn’t just apply to marriage or romantic relationships. It’s just as valuable in understanding our friendships, connections with our children, and even our relationships with coworkers or acquaintances.
It’s a practical tool, much like the Five Love Languages quiz, helping us see and understand what season our loved ones — or even we ourselves — might be in.
Sidenote: If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages and taken its quiz – it’s fantastic! You not only find out so much about your own qualities, likes and dislikes, but you also find out a lot about your spouse, loved one, or family members – if everyone is also taking the quiz. Click here to find the book.
Since we’re in Fall right now, it feels like the perfect place to begin — love in the season of Autumn. This is the season where our true colors begin to show. Unlike Spring, when everything feels fresh and exciting (more on that in a future post), in this Autumn season, our cover beings to ‘fall’ away. Just like the trees shedding their leaves, we too become more transparent. Our flaws and weaknesses are revealed. And it’s here, in this season, that relationships face an important choice: to strengthen communication or risk growing cold and distant.
In this devotional, she used the analogy of a puzzle (and you all know how much I love puzzles!). A puzzle is made up of countless pieces — each with its own unique shape, size, and colour. At first glance, they may seem mismatched, but with time and effort they begin to connect — piece by piece, shape by shape — until the colours blend together to reveal a beautiful picture.
Relationships work much the same way. Whether in marriage, dating, friendship, or even casual connections, every relationship requires patience, effort, and sometimes a bit of frustration to find the right fit. Along the way, our true colours emerge, and compatibility is tested. Yet when the pieces come together, the picture is worth it.
What is Compatibility?
- How similar you are to each other
- Having the ability to come together – even in differences
- Working together to see each other’s perspectives
- Finding value and worth in what the other brings
- Learning from each other
- Growing together
We are created for relationships — to learn, to grow, and to become more of who we’re meant to be. Discovering our similarities can make connection feel easy, but it’s often in learning to understand our differences that true depth is formed. Yes, it may take more energy and commitment to work through those differences, but doing so can create a bond that’s even stronger. Differences don’t have to divide us — they can refine us.
At the heart of any thriving relationship, whether in marriage, friendship, or community, it’s not about being the same or even always agreeing. It’s about choosing to come together through struggles, showing respect, learning from one another, and ultimately growing in appreciation for who the other person truly is.
That’s why the season of fall is so significant. Just as the trees let go of their leaves, we too are invited to let go — to allow our true selves to be seen. It’s in this unveiling that we pause and ask: Where do I need to grow? Where do I need to heal? How can we come together rather than drift apart?
And like a puzzle, every new piece, every unique shape, and every perspective adds to the bigger picture. When we step back, we can begin to see the breathtaking portrait of our lives and relationships unfolding before us.
This devotional truly was a heartfelt and eye-opening find. If it helped me recognize which season I may be in, I can only hope it might also help you better understand yourself — or even someone you love.
Stay tuned this January for Love In Every Season – Winter.
