Love In Every Season – Winter
Baby It’s cold Outside…. Yes, I know it’s a Christmas song, but mid-January has a way of sending chills straight down my spine. I don’t know about you, but once December arrives, the cold seems to linger well into April. Blistering winds, icicles clinging to cozy homes, and snow swirling through the air make the simple act of sitting by a warm fire feel like a small luxury… one that gently thaws even the coldest days.
Back in October, I wrote about Love in Every Season – Fall and promised to explore how love relates itself in each season we journey through. And now, as we find ourselves settled into the heart of January, there’s no better time to lean into the beauty of Winter Love.
According to the Bible App devotional Love in Every Season, winter is often described as the season of apathy. It’s during this time that a quiet “frost” can begin to form in relationships; silently slipping in and creating a cold layer over our hearts. Left unchecked, winter can become one of the most dangerous seasons for love.
Every season carries its own emotional climate—sometimes filled with romance and deep affection, other times with heightened emotions ready to surface. Relationships aren’t built solely on grand gestures, flowers, or special dates. They are maintained in the everyday moments: cleaning the kitchen, making the bed, mowing the lawn, or taking out the garbage. Chemistry may stir emotions, but commitment is shown through action. True love lives in the ordinary, yet without intention and gratitude, those ordinary moments can slowly give way to apathy and being taken for granted.
Often, the “frost” of winter settles in after years together—when comfort replaces curiosity and routine quietly takes over. The daily excitement softens, the passionate spark eases into a familiar embrace, and interactions become more about managing life than nurturing love. Before you realize it, you may find yourselves simply going through the motions of a relationship rather than truly engaging in it.
And the hardest part? This shift often goes unnoticed. Months—sometimes even years—can pass as connection fades and the spark grows dim. Eventually, sitting in the same room together can feel like sharing space with a stranger. It’s then that the weight of disconnection becomes clear, often bringing with it feelings of loneliness and quiet despair.
If this is you, how do you bring back the warmth? Defrost the cold? Or even stop the frost altogether so connection is not lost?
- A healthy relationship is not something we find, it is something we make
- Identify the cause – have you stopped going on dates or having fun? If so, plan a fun day or night out together
- Discuss the issue – be open with each other. Sit and talk over coffee and reminisce about the ‘good old days’ in hopes to create that sparkle in your eye
- Come up with a plan of action – Now that you are aware, plan being more aware in your daily connections together. Sit and talk at the end of the day, share a glass of wine over dinner, head out for a walk for some couple time
One important thing to remember is that every relationship will experience the frost of winter, but just beyond it lies the promise of spring. When we choose to take action during winter—pausing to reflect and addressing the changes that are needed—the warmth of spring begins to settle in. Just like any harvest or any cherished love, growth requires effort, and effort brings reward. That once ho-hum, everyday comfort can slowly transform into a life filled with excitement, intention, and sparkle.
So, let’s invite the sparkle back into your life. If, while reading this, you recognized that your relationship may be in a winter season, choose to make a change today. Greet your spouse warmly when they come home. Prepare a special meal. Plan a fun date night this weekend. It’s never too late to rediscover the spark that first brought you together.
Winter may be here in theory, but in your heart, spring is only one step away.
Please note: Stay tuned this Spring for Love In Every Season – Spring. If you missed Love In Every Season Fall – click HERE.
